A Woman of Virtue

 A Woman of Godly Character

Today's topic is one that's rarely had, purity! A song by Flavour N'abania, "Virtuous Woman" praises a woman of dignity, courage and good fortune, emphasising that her beauty isn't just skin deep! As her beauty is worth more than gold and diamonds. Ladies, this is talking about a Proverbs 31 woman! However, we're focusing on Proverbs 31:30, "Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting but a woman who fears the Lord is to be honored." Will you answer God's call to purity and embrace it wholeheartedly?

Her Wisdom and Discernment

My grandma always emphasised the importance of integrity as a young woman. She painted this picture for me: Imagine being in a relationship with your God-ordained spouse. You both arrive at a celebration, walking hand in hand, as a couple. As you take in the scenery, you spot three of your exes-men you once gave your heart to, men you thought you'd spend your forever with. These are the same men who had access to parts of you that only your husband should have. They saw intimate sides of you that should have been reserved for your spouse alone. Looking back my grandma's words ring true: Don't give yourself to a man that won't marry you. Beloved, don't give wife-like qualities to a boyfriend. Set healthy boundaries to honor your worth. 

An Unpopular Opinion

Everybody's a Christian until it gets Biblical. In other words, you embrace the label until God says, "Stop fornicating, stop dating him, give up that music, stop wearing that, stop cussing." That's the truth! Similarly, we've normalised sin to the point where we can't imagine life without it. And that's exactly what Satan wants—he wants you to live led astray. Romans 12:2 reminds us: "Do not conform to the patterns of this world but be transformed by the renewing of your mind." Please take this to your Father. Ask Him to refine you and take on His perspective. And pray that He helps you hate what He hates and love what He loves.

The Boundaries

1. Be aware of your surroundings

Be careful of your environments and situations you place yourself in. This helps you avoid anything that could make you compromise your commitment to purity. No, don't go over to that boy's house! Avoid seeing him alone all the time, too. Be mindful of temptations, Beloved (1 Timothy 5:22). Flee instead of entertaining. If he is making you compromise or sin than maybe it's time to cut ties with him, no?

2. Set Strict Boundaries

"No touching me inappropriately, as a matter of fact don't touch me," you see how that sounds? It sounds firm and it's giving, "I'm not playing around stop it!" Instead of, "No... stop" and then you giggle/smile only to remove their filthy, lusty hands softly! Do you see the difference between those two responses. Do you get the picture I'm trying to paint here? Girl, please stand up for yourself. Don't be ignorant and be aware of the temptations that exist, protect yourself (1 Thessalonians 4:3-4). Don't give mixed signals. 

In conclusion, if a man doesn't respect women he'll learn to through you. Being virtuous isn't always easy, that's where God comes in. He'll guide you. He'll keep you sane. He made you and the intimacy you crave so tell Him how you feel and ask Him to take it away when it gets unbearable. You've got this, Beloved. You're so loved and adored so move like it! 

Check out my Instagram for some encouragement @tetheredtochrist. I love you but God loves you more. I don't want to exhaust you, so I'll end here.